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Social change strategist. I nudge people outside their echo chambers for the common good.

Conservatives don’t want to address this part

Cardi B | Credit: Kevin Winter/Getty

First, do I have concerns about the lyrics to WAP?

Yes. As a Black woman and former schoolteacher, I don’t think it’s great for young kids to be internalizing the message that sex is something you do in exchange for cars, bags, and money. Regardless of whether or not the song is meant for children, the undeniable fact is that hordes of tiny humans follow Cardi B and listen to every song she releases, whether we want them to or not.

However, unlike most people who criticize WAP, I‘m not so concerned that…

The path to bi-partisan support might be in the details

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The Problem

The student debt crisis is out of control. The Federal Reserve estimates that Americans now owe more than $1.7 trillion in student loans, which amounts to roughly $33,000 per borrower.

That’s a lot — more than twice as much as owed on average 10 years ago.

Still, $33,000 is a modest sum compared to some debts. Most of you reading have probably heard at least one horror story about someone who owes $100,000+ in student loans. …

The need for electoral reform is one of the few things most of us agree on

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Most of us are probably aware of ways our two-party electoral system screws Americans over.

These include, but are not limited to:

  1. Political polarization that divides our citizens and weakens our nation.

2. Political nominees who primarily represent the interests of their party rather than the interests of the American people.

3. Elections that result in a president who has not won the popular vote.

4. The “spoiler effect” or “vote splitting.” This discourages voters from choosing third-party candidates for fear that it will…

There’s more at stake than meets the eye

Republicans have historically gravitated toward exploiting Americans’ fear in their campaign strategies. I am normally more drawn to unifying and optimistic messages of hope, but right now I want to instill in you a different type of fear — not of other people (etc. immigrants, Blacks, welfare recipients), but of policies, ideas, and conflicts of interest that threaten to turn the U.S. completely into an oligarchic dictatorship.

If, like myself, you’re not a fan of Biden and struggle with the decision to vote for him, hopefully this list of positions your vote…

Can we unpack this?

Cardi B and Megan Thee Stallion in the ‘WAP’ video. (YouTube)

I am not a parent, but I did used to teach 5th grade. And let me tell you — elementary students LOVE Cardi B.

I’m talking as young as kindergarten. Not only have they seen her music videos, but they follow her on Instagram, Twitter, and TikTok (the ones with smartphones have secret fake accounts where they lie about their age). They can recite the lyrics to “Bodak Yellow” more fluidly than their 2 times tables, and they know the chorus to “I like It” as well as they know the Pledge of Allegiance.

So with…

This Is Us

None of us are immune

Illustration of a Black person rolling white paint onto an otherwise solid-pink floor, and casting a long, dark shadow.
Illustration of a Black person rolling white paint onto an otherwise solid-pink floor, and casting a long, dark shadow.
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I am racist

Even though I am Black.
Even though I have Black friends.
Even though I have experienced racism.
Even though I protest against racism.
Even though I support Black-owned businesses.
Even though I say #BlackLivesMatter.

I am racist

I don’t say this proudly, or lightly. I am not a racist, but I am still racist. My racism is not a reflection of my heart or intentions. My racism is a product of the environment in which I was raised.

Racism is most visible between Black and White people, but it also occurs between Black people. There were, and still are, levels of privilege within…

Here’s what changed my mind

A conceptual portrait of a black woman with glitter on her face, with her face slightly blurred/double exposed.
A conceptual portrait of a black woman with glitter on her face, with her face slightly blurred/double exposed.
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When I was a girl, my mother (who is Black) taught me that slavery was something terrible that happened in the past. She said that because the North won the Civil War, and because the Civil Rights Act ended Jim Crow, Black people were now equal in the eyes of the law, and the only thing keeping us down was ourselves.

I believed that for a long time — the myth of the model Black person. I believed that all we needed to do was “act right” to have as much chance of success as any White person. …

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I’ve seen several posts and articles recently about how deeply traumatizing it is for black people to witness these seemingly never-ending images of police brutality against people who look like them in their social media timelines. Some people have requested that others remove or not share those images out of sensitivity for the victim’s family.

With the utmost love and compassion for my fellow black people, I have some humble reflections about this:


As a light-skinned person, the emotional response that I feel when seeing these images of brutality against black people cannot be nearly as traumatic as what those…

Religion and pop culture are rife with sage advice to mind your own business. Consider the following quotes:

Take the plank out of your own eye so you can see clearly to remove the speck from someone else’s.

— Bible, Matthew 7:5

Most abominable in the sight of GOD
is that you say what you do not do.

— Quran, 61:2

I’m starting with the Man in the Mirror.

— Michael Jackson

Be the change your want to see in the world.

— Ghandi

Umma do me.

— Rocko

These mantras and missives have been ingrained in our collective psyche…

6 lessons from the hit dating show that you can apply in real life

Cameron and Lauren from “Love is Blind” Season 1, BuzzFeed News

If you haven’t seen Netflix’s breakout dating series, “Love is Blind,” you’re missing out on a big piece of 2020 pop culture.

The premise:

Over the course of 10 days, 15 men and 15 women serially blind “date” each other in “pods,” which are two adjoining rooms with an opaque divider that prevents them from physically seeing one another. Their focus is placed exclusively on building emotional connections through conversation, with the intent of finding a future spouse.

Think “chat-roulette-meets-e-harmony.”

Only after a “couple” becomes engaged can they actually meet face-to-face, by which point a wedding date is already set for just…

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